Maamu ! Shaktimaan mil gaya!!

Its the title song of "Shaktimaan". Try to ponder upon the thought behind this song. You will realize the beauty.

Yeh aatam shakti hai,
dunia badal sakti hai,
sholon ko dhal sakti hai,
Hota hai jab aadmi ko apna gyan,
kehlaya woh,
Shaktimaan ..
Shaktimaan ...Shaktimaaaaaaaaan ..Shaktimaan !!

Once you relate and sing this song for yourself, you will see a lot of energy flowing towards you. The word 'aatam shakti' in this song is about the hidden potential inside all of us. Once you realize your potential, then sky will only be the limt for you and beauty is that sky has no limit. And you will see a real shaktimaan inside you, who had the potential and energy to fulfil all the dreams and wishes of your own self and still some extra energy left over which can be used for the well being of others.
Lets all pray to that almighty to wake up our 'shaktimaan'.

Loneliness ! Noooooooo.. Not for me !!

"Loneliness is the poverty of self; solitude is the richness of self"

Feeling lonely is very common to all of us. There are times when we feel extremely alone and restless and yearn for our dear ones to come around. We try to get them to our rescue but it doesn't work, then finally we feel helpless and depressed being lonely. These moments make you remember those people who enrich your life with their presence. So these moments have got their own significance in your life. But when all your efforts fail to get someone and when you realize that you are restless and depressed, then you need to take appropriate steps to get rid of this state of mind.
Firstly remember that it is not possible to have your loved ones with you all the time. And secondly that you have to live each and every moment of your life to the fullest and in the state of happiness. No matter how worst happens in life, still:

• Happiness is important.
• Happiness is desirable.
  
• Happiness is possible.
  

Now that you are not able to get someone's company to get rid of loneliness, then why not get and enjoy the company of your ownself.

We can consider the loneliness as the state when we are totally free to do anything that we wish to do and that too without any interruption by anyone and moreover without any opinion from anyone. And if we just try to recall that there are so many things that we generally want to do but keep postponing because of not being alone. So we can convert these moments of loneliness while getting engaged in those activities which fulfill our long pending wishes .

And you will realize that doing this, you can convert the so called miserable moments of loneliness into the memorable moments of joy and happiness.

I have listed down few of the activities that we all can do in loneliness. However you can also suggest some creative way of time pass.

1. Reading this blog is ofcourse the best time pass for you.
2. Call and have a talk with your mom, dad, brother, sister, cousins. Try not to call up your girlfriend/boyfriend because generally thats the origin for your loneliness.
3. Shuffle through phone book and call up some of your very old friend and have a chat.
4. Listening to your favorite music.
5. Singing. Just sing whatever are your favorite tracks are.
   
6. Dance practice.
   
7. Poetry, painting, sketching etc...
8. Watch your favorite channel on TV.
9. gtalk or yahoo messenger. Chat with old school/college friends.
10. Orkut, Facebook and other social networking.
11. Go out for a walk in the colony or market. ... etc. ... etc.

So I hope by now you know what you have to say if next time you come across loneliness:-

"Loneliness ! Noooooooo.. Not for me !!

Happiness @Rs 10

I learnt another wonderful tactics of being happy. Just wanted to share it with you. It costs only Rs 10 per day.

"Your happiness is directly proportional to the number of people whom you can make happy". If you make five people happy, then your own happiness will be the total sum of happiness of all five.

That afternoon of Good Friday, I went to my friend's place to help him in shifting to new house. It must be around 2 PM then. I was standing near the parking place. Suddenly a rickshaw wala came nearby, pulling a fatty aunty and her healthy son. I could see his face and feel how difficult it had been for him pulling these two together and that too in such scorching heat at daytime in delhi summers.
Reaching the destination, he was waiting for his reward money for the effort that he has put up in pulling them. The lady opened up her purse and gave him Rs 20/-. He pleaded that " mem sahib, it is 15Rs per person pulling from that place. So no less that 30 will go".
In reply to this, The lady Said, " Oye ! 20 is fine. Take it or you will not get even this much. Got down and started walking with prestige as if she had won the World Cup of bargaining".
He must be thinking, " Why do these rich pleople always remain so poor".

As I could not hold myself so I called him up " Bhaiya Ji, Idhar aayenge zara". I gave him Rs 10 from my purse. And asked him that " Now that you have got your Rs 30. Hope you are happy. He was surprised at this very act. He was wondering why I am bothered for his happiness.
I was smiling from inside that he dont know but I was rather bothered about my own happiness than his. Thats why I did that. How could I feel happy till someone else is feeling sad in front of me. And if I am then I don't consider myself a human.

And I came back home happily n more happily with the satisfaction of 'Performing today's good deed". It just costed me Rs 10, And in return I got a satisfaction, a happiness, and something priceless- A blessing.

At that moment I decided to do something like this every day, Finally it would cost me Rs 300/Month ( Just 0.6% of my monthly salary). In return will bring me so many priceless things.

"Not a bad deal at all man. Go for it", I said to myself.

I think such an act requires one to feel the abundance of resources(money in this case) which one got because of God's grace.
That landlady must be having crores of rupees in her account but still could not feel the abundance. She still could cheat someone merely for ten rupees. She never realize that this Rs 10 won't make much difference to her Crores. But counts a lot for someone whose family's that day meal could be affected because of this Rs 10.
I wonder why do people accumulate so much wealth if they don't want to feel how much they have. They keep on accumulating and accumulating and finally leave this world empty handed without even realizing and enjoying the abundance of it.

Thats why I always beg from my God that if you give me so much of resources, then also give me the courage to feel the abundance of those.
I must tell you that one only need a breath and food to keep alive, rest all should be considered as abundance and should be reason for your 'Happiness

Fell in love with autowala.

All of us know know that autowalas at famous tourist places have only one motive, that is to get as much money from the tourists. There is no doubt about this very fact. But that day was different, Autowala refused to take the money after dropping me to the agreed place.

Its a very interesting story, so do read it slowly with feeling.

Huh ! I thanked god as bus finally reached the Rishikesh Bus Stand. After such stiff overnight journey in bus, each and every part of my body was enjoying the freedom of movement .
Next I had to take an auto for the Aashram. I was there for my yoga and meditation camp.
" Auto wale", I shouted to an autowala. Bhai ! How much for Art of living Ashram?
" Rs 50 sardarji", he replied. I tried bargaining a little bit to bring him down to Rs 40 but couldn't succeed. So locked at Rs 50/-

I was about to sit inside the auto when some guys approached me.
"Jaigurudev bhaiya", they said.
"Jaigurudev bhai, you also for advance course I guess".
And got to know that they were going to the same place. They hired an auto for Rs 120( i.e. Rs 30 each as they were four guys). One of them approached me saying that the other auto is taking them in Rs 30 only per person.

The very next moment I could hear that there were a lot of arguments going on between my autowala and that guy,then between my autowala and their autowala.
It was so pleasant weather that I just wanted to be quite and enjoy those lucky moments. But finally had to broke my silence. So I called up my autowala and said," Why are you fighting with them. I am sitting in your auto and going with you only. So why taking so much unnecessary tension".
"Lets go bhai", I said and finally we left for aashram.
He was bit astonished that why I am still willing to go with him even after getting the better deal. I told him on the way that, if I someone had offered me a free ride to the aashram, even then I would have refused that. Because I had already gave you my words and finalized it at Rs 50.
I just threw this dialogue " If I marry a girl and next day I find a girl who is better that her. Will I ever think about changing the partner. Similarly how could I back off from other commitments and promises that I make.
We had a nice communication on the way about his daily schedule and family.
"Do you know how lucky are you that you stay at rishikesh where so many saints, rishis, munis and mahatamas have stayed. So pleasant is the weather here. Only we Delhities who see so much of noise and pollution and traffic jams, know the signifance and pleasure of breathing so fresh air at rishikesh" I said to autowala.

After reaching the aashram I opened up my wallet and gave him Rs 50. Suddenly I realized that I did not withdrew the money for course registration.
I asked the Autowala that I need to go to ATM to withdraw the money.
"But the ATM is quite far away from aashram i.e. Around 5-7 kilometres. So will need more money after going to ATM and coming back", He said.

"Okay !! No issues bhai. Take whatever you want. Now lets move.", I said.

After coming back to aashram I asked him, " Hanji bhai hukm karo kya sewa karen".
" Its okay Sardarji. I dont want anything" He said.
"Don't want anything! Buy why. You took me to ATM and got back. I think you deserve 30Rs more."
"But I don't want to take anything from you, sardarji. I cannot take anything. You are a nice person. Thanks for coming in my auto. Tell me onething sardarji, so many people use to come in this aashram. What do they teach here".
I had no other option but to give a smile to him. Thats what I learnt over there, To give a smile to everyone.

And finally I realized that if I had choosen the other Auto, It would have finally costed me Rs 60(30+30). But choosing this Auto was not a bad deal as it appeared. There are few things in life whose benifits are not visible instantaneously but they do come sometime later in your life. But it only happens if we keep sticking to our commitments, No matter what happens.

Sometimes we think that everyone out there is trying to take away our money. And thats why we look negatively at everbody outside.
But when we surrender everything to others, then others cease to take anything from you.
When I surrendered myself to autowala and said " bhai batao kya seva karen". Now he has freedom to take anything from me. I have already offered everything to him at this point. I have already become so poor that I am not left with anything. He could feel everything of mine as his own. Now that he has got everything, he wanted to give a little bit of it back to me . Thats why he refused to take any money from me because he could feel the abundance at that time.

For all my friends !!

" Mainu yaar mere lagde khudaa varge,
kise allah de fakir di dua varge" !!

Today I arose myself a question - Who all are my friends ?
It was no easy to get the answer but had to close my eyes to go deeper into myself.
Trust me it was so wonderful the experience of journey within your ownself.

Here comes the answer directly from my heart:-

To whom I extend my friendly hand and who grasps it with love is my friend.
Anyone who extends his friendly hand towards me is surely my friend. Infact my true love remains with those who took the lead to extend their friendly hand to me. You can always love someone who loves you, but you cannot always make someone love you.

So my true respect and love for those who loved me the way I am without myself making any effort to get their love.. You are the ones who made me realize that I am lovable. I can see my God in you. I can do anything for you.

Friends bring fulfillment in your life with their presence, the positiveness, the belongingness, the love, the joy, the helping hand, the listener. Whenever you are feeling low or lonely, then your friends come to your rescue and hold your hand to say "Hey! Why do you worry, when I am with you".
Friends come in your life, becomes part of your life, give memories and then leave. We all welcome the friends as they come, have good memorable times. And finally get sad, sometimes even cry on departure from them. So a very bitter fact is that you cannot take their existence as permanent. We blame ourself or the situations and curse ourself on our helplessness to get them back . And finally we blame the God for having done that.
So when you lose a a friend who is close to your heart, the only way to deal it is that we consider everything as pre-planned by that divine self, where everything happens for a reason. We cannot know the reason because we are not part of decision making. We all are playing as different roles in a play named "A beautiful Life" whose director and producer is the God. The planner of our life is someone else, who resides in all of us, whose planning is unquestionable. Those who accepts the planning remains happy and thankful and feel blessed in each situation and those who questions the very planning remain sad, depressed and obsessed with all other negative feelings. They keep cursing themselves but never realize that they are the actors of this play and not the directors.

Only when you realize this very reality that you will be able to get out of the trauma of losing someone who had been close to your heart. Sooner or later one has to accept the very reality.

One possible solution in this situation is that you can make friends with that devine itself. Who will always remain with you throughout your life. Then you can see God in everybody. And then furthur more you can see a friend in everybody"

Yet from another viewpoint, I feel that unless you realize the temporary existence of your friends. You cannot express your true friendship. Because forgetting this very fact, we start taking a lot of things for granted and start ignoring our friends . Let me explain it in with example situations.

• Each time you see your friend, you should meet him/her with such a completeness as if this is your last meeting. Express as much love as you can. Who knows 'kal ho na ho'.

• Before fighting with your dear one or getting angry with your dear one, just remember this very fact. Love that you wanted to show and postponed till tomorrow,May not come. At that time you will ask God to give you one last chance to express your feelings to your love, your friend. But then that chance may never come. God had given many chances to express the love but you wasted it all fighting, cursing, complaining your dear one.Then God will have only one answer for you "You better be alone, you don't deserve a friend"